Chivalry Isn’t Dead

After running errands, I choose to stop somewhere for a bite to eat. As I walk towards the door of the restaurant, I peek at myself in the mirror. The bright, Spring-like floral dress stand out against my tanned skin. My hips sway as I walk in brown open-toe sandals that have a 4-inch heel on them.

The hostess asks me, “Just one today? Will a table be alright?”

Nodding my head, I smile and reply, “Yes. That’ll be fine.”

As she places my cutlery and menu down onto the table, I quickly run off to wash my hands in the restroom. Upon leaving the restroom, and letting the rest of the moisture from rinsing air dry, I sit at my table, coffee is waiting.

I begin to peruse the menu and a voice from behind it sweetly says, “Ma’am?”

Lowering my menu, I see a lovely young woman standing before me and she begins to inform me, “There is a gentleman over there who says he would love to pay for your meal.”

My face gets hot and I am clearly aware I am blushing, and I smile and giggle because, well, it was an awkward moment for myself, and I politely decline. I look past her and she is pointing to a gentleman on the other side of the restaurant and I smile, as he waves and smiles back.

She was giggling as she walked back to him to give him my answer.

He walked away, defeated. He shrugged his shoulders and walked away with his friend as I sipped on my coffee, in my floral spring dress, nose in the menu.

Oh, IHOP. How romantic can it get?

Find Your Match

Online dating has become quite prevalent in today’s techie society. Everyone is looking for someone. We are in such a rush to fill our needs than before. We are a society based on instant gratification and instant satisfaction.

We want it and we want it now.

With a crop of dating websites to choose from, including Facebook and even Twitter (and I’ve seen romances crop from Instagram, as well) people are becoming less inclined to go out and find someone in person. We’ve become lazy when it comes to the hunt for a suitable partner. Meeting people in person is just becoming too weird.

Remember when dating was meeting random people, thinking they looked nice, and asking them for their phone number? Or remember when people used to set you up with their friends? Or meeting someone at the bar, having a couple of shots and laughs through a drunken haze? Those simple strategies are not gone, but they’re not as common as once practiced.

Has social networking made us weird in person? We’re these awesome people with funny and even deep, philosophical quotes on our status updates. We eat nice looking meals, and have lots of pictures of ourselves smiling and having a great time with friends… Then you meet a new person for a date for the first time and you’re just socially awkward because you no longer have a computer screen in front of you.

Men have lost that knack for approaching women [respectfully] in public venues, while women detest being approached by the random creeper wherever they are. Online people can meet anyone, and the possibilities are endless. Sometimes, it is still kind of creepy online, but it is easier to avoid that person after initial creepy contact.

The last few potential suitors, I have met online. I met a couple of really nice guys on Twitter, and the remainder on Facebook. I’ve only met a couple in person. The others, well, I made really great friends and I really cherish the relationships we have built online. Now that we have online dating sites, people are just sitting there, waiting for their inbox to light up with a new message. What could be easier? We also can filter out what we want in people and find people with common interests easier than before.

Just remember that although it’s quicker to find someone who matches what you want in a person, you still have to take the time to figure out of chemistry is there. But it does make the process a whole lot easier.

Relationships take time. Relationships do take some sort of social skills. So remember to practice them. Also, remember that no relationship comes without effort. Just because you meet someone online through a dating site, it doesn’t mean that it will work out.

If you’re really looking for someone to date and potentially become your other half, try your friends’ suggestions first because that is still the number one way of meeting a suitable partner. If not, then take to the web and find your soul mate by creating a profile that clearly states you are available and willing to try just about anything within your hobbies, or even something new, and open up the endless possibilities that is online dating.

It couldn’t hurt to try.

I mean, what else could possibly worse than meeting a few bad apples in the bunch? You can always end up being a lonely, cat lady in a one bedroom apartment with nothing but a recliner and no one to help you clean the litter box.

Or…

You can find someone you share some common interests with that brings you a whole new world of possibilities in adventure and emotional wonder.

Peace and love. ♥

Blank Page ≠ Blank Mind

Today, I sit here and stare at the blank screen. I am at a loss for topics. I just have run out of emotional bullshit that I want to elaborate on, and I’ve never been one for descriptive fiction…

Unless it is “50 Shades of Grey” kinda stuff. I can write quite the gory details of sexual innuendo. And even then, I have no actual desire to write sophomoric porn on a blog… It would be kinda weird.

I also have some things going on that require my reticence, so I have not been able to elaborate on some of my innermost thoughts…

So, just because there are days when I can’t seem to form coherent sentences and produce a work of unfathomable brilliance, it does not mean that I am not filled with ideas, I just haven’t found a way to put them down onto the blank screen.

See, the problem with most of my writing is that it is based on my life experiences. Well, maybe it is not a problem, but I get the feeling that it is redundant to constantly remind the world I was in a bad relationship, domestic violence, depression, blah, blah, blah. I mean, how many people get sick of the sadness all over their screen? Geez, I know I do…

But there are people out there who deal with it everyday just as much as I do, and I know people can relate. I just feel that people need to know there is life after all of that.

I’m constantly taking ideas of new things I can write about, maybe take myself out of my comfort level, but in the meantime, a few Daily Prompts and some more optimistic depressing shit to go with your morning coffee might be what you have to deal with until I get some new experiences in my life.

I’m never not thinking about something, but how to write about it is always the hardest part.

Check out some fun ideas from people who have more to say: The Daily Prompt