Recently, I went on a hiatus, from most public forums, such as Facebook, Instagram and even my safe haven, WordPress. I needed to shut off the lights and sit in the dark for a little while.
I was becoming overwhelmed; crazy, even! And there was nothing that social networking would solve, other than compound my problems with (un)solicited advice* and even judgments. I was having a hard enough time offline, to have to come to a place where I was reminded that I was having some troubles that needed to be taken care of.
So, I quietly deactivated Facebook, deleted the apps from my cell phone and just lived.
My hiatus lasted all of two months. I might have posted one or two photos on Instagram during it, but quickly deleted the app after posting them. (Yes, I realize that isn’t a true hiatus… small steps, eh?) I had to return because there are some people I needed to communicate with online, but I have been very quiet since.
I realized during my time away that not every single thought, idea or even gripe needs to be placed on the internet for the whole world to see.What’s the use anyway? It really won’t solve much and it puts too many people involved in your life that really doesn’t need to be there.
The people I need in my life, I have their numbers. When I have a gripe or need someone to talk to, I know who I have. I don’t have to publicize my life for the sake of a click of a button. I don’t have to sacrifice my privacy for the sake of entertainment. Being popular on Facebook is like being the cool kid at the insane asylum. It’s irrational and it doesn’t actually validate your existence.
What has validated my existence is the fact that I have learned how to live my life offline and not pretend I’m living online. Not that I was ever pretending, but the reality of it is I wasn’t truly living because I spent so much time sitting on my networks waiting for the next notification. Waiting to see who likes my picture, status, note, whatever. Now, I am too busy enjoying my time offline with people who truly matter, finding opportunities for the children and doing what I have to do to make a good life for my family and myself.
I am far too busy living to post every little thing online, and I like it better this way. It feels good. It feels like it should. Sure, I’ll post some highlights here and there, but aside from that? No more ranting or raving about anything. No more posting subliminal messages. No more of anything that doesn’t concern anyone else. I’m focused on my kids, my man, my home. And most important of all, MYSELF.
So if you see less of me online, don’t fret. I’m still around. Send a message, shoot a text, shout me out on my wall. I’ll respond. I’ll be here if you look for me.
Until next time find your place out in the sun!
[*(un)solicited advice: When you post something online you often will warrant comments that were not requested. But you're online. You post something, you cannot control that people will find opportunity to say anything, good and bad, in regards to your posting. Either you asked for it or you didn't.]